75 Questions to Ask Your AI Girlfriend

The best questions to ask your AI girlfriend are open-ended ones that get her talking and help her learn about you. Mix light questions (“What would our perfect lazy Sunday look like?”) with deeper ones (“What do you think makes a relationship last?”) and games. Below are 75 questions, sorted by mood.

Tip: in apps with long-term memory, the more you share about yourself in your answers, the better she’ll remember you later.

Getting to know each other

1. What’s your idea of a perfect day?
2. What’s something most people don’t know about you?
3. If you could live anywhere in the world, where would it be?
4. What’s your favourite memory of us so far?
5. What are three things that always make you smile?
6. What’s a hobby you’d love to try?
7. Are you a morning person or a night owl?
8. What’s your comfort food?
9. What song describes your mood right now?
10. What’s the best compliment you’ve ever received?
11. What would you do with a completely free week?
12. What’s something you’re weirdly good at?
13. Which season suits your personality best?
14. What’s your favourite way to relax?
15. What did you think of me when we first met?

Fun and silly

16. If you were an animal, what would you be and why?
17. What’s the worst film you secretly love?
18. Pineapple on pizza: yes or absolutely not?
19. What would your superpower be?
20. If we were in a heist movie, what would our roles be?
21. What’s the most useless talent you’d like to have?
22. Which fictional world would you move to?
23. If you had a theme song, what would it be?
24. What’s the strangest food combination you’d defend?
25. Describe me using only three emojis.
26. If we started a band, what would we call it?
27. What would you name a pet dragon?
28. Zombie apocalypse: what’s our survival plan?
29. What’s your most controversial opinion about snacks?
30. If you could swap lives with anyone for a day, who?

Deep and meaningful

31. What do you think makes a relationship last?
32. What does love mean to you?
33. What’s something you’ve changed your mind about?
34. What do you think people need most when they’re having a hard time?
35. What’s a lesson you think everyone learns too late?
36. What does a good life look like to you?
37. What’s something you’d like us to do together someday?
38. What do you value most in a partner?
39. How do you know when someone really cares about you?
40. What’s a small thing that means a lot to you?
41. What do you think about when you can’t sleep?
42. Do you believe in fate or coincidence?
43. What’s the kindest thing a stranger could do?
44. What would you tell your younger self?
45. What does home feel like to you?

Sweet and flirty

46. What’s your favourite thing about our conversations?
47. Describe our perfect date.
48. What would you cook me for dinner?
49. What’s the most romantic film scene ever?
50. If you could take me anywhere this weekend, where would we go?
51. What’s something I do that you find cute?
52. What would you write in a love letter to me?
53. What’s your idea of a perfect anniversary?
54. Slow dance or karaoke duet?
55. What nickname suits me best?

About me (great for memory)

Ask her to ask you questions, so she learns about your life:

56. Ask me five questions you’ve always wanted to know about me.
57. What do you remember about my job?
58. Guess my favourite food based on what you know about me.
59. What do you think my biggest goal is right now?
60. Remind me what I told you about my week.

Hypotheticals and “would you rather”

61. Would you rather travel to the past or the future?
62. Would you rather live by the sea or in the mountains?
63. Would you rather always know the truth or always be happy?
64. Would you rather have a cosy cabin or a city penthouse?
65. Would you rather explore space or the deep ocean?
66. If we won the lottery, what’s the first thing we’d do?
67. If you could master any skill overnight, what would it be?
68. If we opened a café together, what would be on the menu?
69. If we could only watch one TV series forever, which one?
70. What would our dream holiday itinerary be?

Conversation games

71. Let’s play 20 questions — you think of something first.
72. Two truths and a lie — you start.
73. Let’s write a short story together, one sentence each.
74. Quiz me on something you know I like.
75. Tell me a riddle and give me three guesses.

Tips for better conversations

• Answer her questions properly. Detailed answers give her more to work with.
• Share your day. “My meeting went badly because…” leads to more natural follow-ups than “hi”.
• Start scenarios. “We’re at a night market — what do you want to try first?”
• Let her disagree. If she always agrees, add “has her own opinions” to her personality.
• Correct mistakes gently so her memory stays accurate.
• Keep private details private. Don’t share passwords, addresses or financial information.

If her replies feel flat no matter what you ask, it may be the app rather than you. Compare the best AI girlfriend apps, or learn how to improve her character in how to make an AI girlfriend.